News Flash: Men have feelings
Last night Mr. Bunny asked me how I felt about our return to the conception mines next month. (I’ve decided that’s the metaphor I’m going with–it really does feel like descending into a dark place and chipping away at something immovable, with an ever-present threat of a cave-in… Oh, and there’s the black lung…) We agreed that we are not overly psyched about it, but hey, it’s got to be done. Then I asked him something I’ve been wondering about, to wit, how does it feel for him to be around BFB’s baby. He said it was hard at first, but is getting easier because babies are so boring. And that BFB is really annoying with her constant yammering about her baby’s development, and her foolish belief that her child is precocious. But mainly he just doesn’t want to be around her because he’s pissed at her for all the suffering she’s caused me. I was like, dude, what? I mean, yes, there has been much suffering, but it’s not exactly her fault, and what was she supposed to do? Not have children? He said it’s an irrational anger, but he feels it anyway. I was kinda charmed by the idea of him being all protective! And it’s kinda nice having someone who can be pissed at her so that I don’t have to. Marriage is all about division of labor, no?
I met Mr. Bunny through BFB (at her wedding), and I know that their friendship has suffered since I came on the scene. He’s obligated to take my side in any dispute and has gotten to listen to all kinds of me complaining about her, because many aspects of her personality are super fucking annoying. (I can say this because I am well aware the same is true of my personality.) But it does seem that our infertility is putting some extra pressure on their friendship, so it will be interesting to see if they can figure it out. I suppose it might depend entirely upon whether we hit that vein of baby, or whether we end up buried alive under tons of rock.