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News Flash: Men have feelings

Last night Mr. Bunny asked me how I felt about our return to the conception mines next month. (I’ve decided that’s the metaphor I’m going with–it really does feel like descending into a dark place and chipping away at something immovable, with an ever-present threat of a cave-in… Oh, and there’s the black lung…) We agreed that we are not overly psyched about it, but hey, it’s got to be done. Then I asked him something I’ve been wondering about, to wit, how does it feel for him to be around BFB’s baby. He said it was hard at first, but is getting easier because babies are so boring. And that BFB is really annoying with her constant yammering about her baby’s development, and her foolish belief that her child is precocious. But mainly he just doesn’t want to be around her because he’s pissed at her for all the suffering she’s caused me. I was like, dude, what? I mean, yes, there has been much suffering, but it’s not exactly her fault, and what was she supposed to do? Not have children? He said it’s an irrational anger, but he feels it anyway. I was kinda charmed by the idea of him being all protective! And it’s kinda nice having someone who can be pissed at her so that I don’t have to. Marriage is all about division of labor, no?

I met Mr. Bunny through BFB (at her wedding), and I know that their friendship has suffered since I came on the scene. He’s obligated to take my side in any dispute and has gotten to listen to all kinds of me complaining about her, because many aspects of her personality are super fucking annoying. (I can say this because I am well aware the same is true of my personality.) But it does seem that our infertility is putting some extra pressure on their friendship, so it will be interesting to see if they can figure it out. I suppose it might depend entirely upon whether we hit that vein of baby, or whether we end up buried alive under tons of rock.

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  1. oh, how i wish dh would be pissed at ppl on my behalf sometimes. he thinks the best of everyone (can we say ANNOYING) except for one of my best friends, and she is the only person who i don't find annoying so i don't know why he does!!i'm liking the sound of mr bunny more and more as you talk about him :o) he sounds like a keeper!

    June 22, 2010
  2. That sounds so much like Lawyer Guy. When I came home in tears after Clueless Preggo made her announcement, LG said "You are never talking to that bitch again!" Which was sweet, if somewhat disproportionate to the offense.I love Mr. Bunny's "babies are boring" reaction. Wouldn't it be so much easier if we thought so too?

    June 22, 2010
  3. "Conception Mines" is a fantastic description. I guess in this case though, it's less black lung and more black uterus. Oy! And as an Italian, I ADORE anyone that is pissed on your behalf. Yes, there are times when a friend/spouse/ETC has to step in and talk you down but when you have reason to be upset or bothered, there's nothing like knowing someone has got your back and agrees with you completely. Way to go Mr. Bunny! — Jay http://the2weekwait.blogspot.com/

    June 22, 2010
  4. Mr. Bunny sounds like a keeper. I think it's awesome that he gets pissed off for you. My hubs is waaaaaay too laid back about stuff like that and I always end up feeling like the b*tch. Anyway, wishing you the best of luck as you enter the Conception Mines. ****Baby Dust for all!**** 😉

    June 22, 2010
  5. Blooming Nora, yes, men, with the feelings! All the time, they have them. Mr Bunny MBA does sound rather nice. And funny. I mean, really, why would a person bother otherwise? I wish you luck on your expedition. Marmalade sandwiches and a flashlight will be essential. Will send a search party if we don't hear from you by November. Bon voyage!

    June 22, 2010
  6. Wait, what? Men… have…. feelings? Are you sure?It's pretty darn sweet that he's watching out for you. Sometimes, when I'm least expecting it, my hubby will do that. It's usually in a "that bitch stole your parking spot, I'll go cut her!" way, though. We're still working on "feeling our feelings."

    June 22, 2010
  7. Awwwwwww… where is Mr Bunny right now because I want to give him a hug.I love love LOVE that he voiced his feelings to you and how precious is it that men have irrational feelings too? I thought that job was soley put on womans shoulders up till now.I think its natural for friendships to change over the years, it's just a natural progression as peoples lives and priorities change.I look forward to your future posts about working in the mysterious conception mines. Hope you strike gold (ahh, corny joke). xxx

    June 22, 2010
  8. All right Mr. Bunny! I'm so glad you are able to talk with him about these things. And good for him for being pissed off on your behalf.Are the conception mines anything like Jaynesville? (How big a dork am I?)

    June 22, 2010
  9. Jaynestown? Really? Oh my, I'm going to have to hang my head in dork-shame. 🙂

    June 22, 2010
  10. Yay Mr. B! I'm so glad you've got such a great partner in him.

    June 22, 2010
  11. Hubs of Bunny is a good, good man. I would've, literally, melted into a puddle hear what you did. Off to the mines you go…as a great, great team. xo

    June 22, 2010
  12. JC #

    Awe…I think that's sweet he's pissed off at her for you! Awwww. Kinda cute/funny too. I hope you guys get lucky!

    June 22, 2010
  13. Yes, I know, the men, they have feelings? Who knew? It only took 4.5 years of living in the Conception Mines for Mr CF to tell me how he really feels about this whole business. Though I am so very glad he did. And Mr Bunny deserves a big gold medal in my opinion. Or at least a very special and expensive whisky. I love the Conception Mines phrase. It really is like that when you've been in it for the long haul.

    June 23, 2010
  14. JB #

    I was unaware men had these – what do you call them again? – feelings. I will have to watch carefully for signs of this in my husband. Is it curable?

    June 23, 2010
  15. Good for Mr. bunny. He sounds like a good guy.

    June 23, 2010

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