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Last night I was bragging to Mr. Bunny about the fact that I get to experience the miracle of life growing within my body.* He said, Yeah, well, you’re merely a vessel for my seed.

I love that man.

If Bun Bun is alive and well at next week’s ultrasound, I’ll see if Mr. Bunny is okay with me telling a few friends. (Weirdly, neither of us is particularly interested in telling our families!) Part of me is really looking forward to telling BFB. Part of me doesn’t want to. Maybe I’m afraid she won’t understand that my pregnancy, should it continue, is not going to be like hers, all carefree and shit. That what I’ve been through–minor as it is compared to many of your journeys–is not going to be erased just because I get to move forward. Or maybe I just don’t want to hear all her assvice. Whatever. I’ll cross that bridge if I’m lucky enough to come to it.

*You know, today, at least…as far as I can tell.

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  1. you know, i've been meaning to ask but never did. what does bfb stand for? i know she's your bff, but can only figure out the first b. stupid am i??ahhh, you're merely a vessel for mr bunny's seed. well, my dh came home last night and went straight for my belly to say hi. i didn't get my hello kiss until i showed my displeasure (not really). umm hello!!! i'm being ignored already!! *pretend outrage*.

    September 29, 2010
  2. Vessel for his seed – oh that cracks me up! Men! Telling people – don't you want to preface every conversation with "this was really hard for me, I'm not like other people?" Maybe you should… I have found in telling people about IF, pregnancies, miscarriages, that it's best if I tell people how to react, how open I am to questions, etc. It would be wonderful if people could just figure it out on their own, but unfortunately, I've found people in general are not that smart or empathetic…

    September 29, 2010
  3. Good to know that men, even when confronted with the miracle of life before their very eyes, will remain, well, men. Every day I get asked about le bebe prior to being asked about me. Telling is awesome. But scary, and to Alex's point, I think that most people who have not been through IF or RPL or anything hard just don't get how scary it really is. I tried to explain to my hyperfertile bf that I felt a bit like a dog who had been repeatedly kicked — even when the kicking stops and the dog is adopted by a new family, the dog still expects to be kicked again, and it takes a while to make that go away. Not sure if she got it, but that was as helpful an analogy as I could come up with.

    September 29, 2010
  4. You could have said that you and Mr. Bunny are well suited for each other. Instead, you told us this story about your back and forth about bragging rights over procreation. You're so awesome! Bfb situations are always one to handle with care, from what I've read previously. Maybe that one's an email instead of a phone call? I'm just saying.

    September 29, 2010
  5. Vessel is funny. Seed funny. The combo is hilarity.

    September 29, 2010
  6. Ha! you and Mr B are well met, it would seem.Provisos and disclaimers are understood and de-coded, as is proper. But you know, the chances are greatly in your favour. Good to remember, for moments of worry.

    September 29, 2010
  7. We have not had the guts to tell a single friend!!! I feel you, Bunny. It takes so much trust and mental energy to believe the baby is really and truly growing in there. I struggle to believe every. single. day. It's so hard sans proof. I guess this is what the religious folks would call FAITH!Vessel, hahaha.

    September 29, 2010
  8. Mr Bunny is hilarious. Does BFB know about your struggles and/or do you think she'll be understanding? I've told a friend last year that we were trying, and then this year again, and she seemed to have forgotten… so I was kind of annoyed. But others, even fertile ones, have been much more understanding, so it would really depend for me.

    September 29, 2010
  9. hahahaha, saw your comment. you'd actually be proud of me. i've been pretty calm since seeing the 2 lines on saturday!! or at least, MY version of calm, which still includes just a *little bit of worry*, but that's how i roll. xoxo!

    September 29, 2010
  10. AWWW….men are so cute. Vessel, he better hope that the hormones, lack of sleep and puking don't make that vessel too angry!!!I know what ya mean–telling the fertiles is never easy–what if they start trying to treat you like one on THEM. Yikes!

    September 29, 2010
  11. "assvice" = FANTASTIC. I mean, aside from the fact that it sucks. But the nomenclature is divine.

    September 29, 2010
  12. Mr. Bunny sounds awesome.

    September 29, 2010
  13. I feel like my little bunny is all grown up now and i'm not sure what to say to her!! But seriously, mr bunny is hillarious! Made me chuckle to myself….I know what you mean about telling BFB. She won't understand that you being pregnant is so much more special and important than her pregnancy. The thing that would scare me is if she started recommending brands of baby clothes or bottles etc… I don't know her at all and I know she must be lovely if she's your BF but those fertile friends of ours have a habit of rushing ahead into zones that we are not comfortable envisioning. So if you do tell her then make sure to slow her down and not let her get all "this is how you burp your baby" on you just yet. xxxx

    September 29, 2010
  14. I have been wondering about you telling BFB. It seems like such a fraught situation, and based on what you've told us about her it sounds like while she cares about you, she doesn't really get it. I wonder if you could come up with a "safe word" for when she starts on the assvice. Like, she could be all "make sure you buy the right car seat blah blah blah" and you could say "Viking Rune candle" and she would know to change to subject to, say, monkeys.

    September 29, 2010
  15. You need to move to CA. Mr. Bun and Mr. Misfit have the same wackadoo humor. I will even babysit. And you know from me that's A LOT. Plus, I'll look into getting some surgery for my massive size 8.5 feet to fit into your wee, itty-bitty shoes. Bonus, if you agree to help me terrorize my SIL!Okay, on all fronts, I am overly excited for you and am thinking tremendously great thoughts for next week. I think your fertile-myrtle BF will surprise you, but put that off until you feel good about telling her.

    September 29, 2010
  16. Mr Bunny and Mr CF would be very good friends, I think…too funny :)Ooohhh, I have also been wondering about the telling of BFB. I will second what Twangy said. I think you have every reason to be hopeful for next week.

    September 30, 2010
  17. We shared the news fairly early…and remember that once you see the heartbeat the risk of miscarriage goes way down…bun-bun is doing great! Can't wait to hear how it goes with BFB.

    September 30, 2010
  18. Assvice from women who haven't had fertility issues is unacceptable! I know you will set BFB straight, though. I loved the exchange you shared with us, and I was pretty impressed at how well she grasped the dynamics. I hope she manages some sensitivity and if not – she's way way far away.

    October 1, 2010
  19. I'm hoping you get to tell those friends SOON. (And I'm also hoping nobody does the easy-breezy-but-your-fine!-and-should-therefore-just-relax-and-enjoy-things routine).

    October 5, 2010

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