For some reason, I refuse to read books about parenting. I’m not sure why. Maybe I’m afraid of thwarting whatever natural instincts I’ve got. (And hell, I’ve kept a baby alive for ALMOST FOUR MONTHS! Therefore I am THE SHIT! QUOD ERAT DEMONSTRANDUM! Do you like being yelled at IN LATIN?) Or maybe it’s that I know there’s a ton of conflicting information out there and I don’t want to get involved. Or maybe I just spend so much of my life reading and assessing and learning that I just want to fucking BE IGNORANT.
It’s worked fine so far. But this is simply because I have the world’s easiest baby. (Want to see my certificate from the Baby Grading Department?) Suddenly, however, my baby is presenting parenting challenges that need to be solved. So I could read books, or look at The Internet. Or ask you. I’m going to ask you.
The question I’m currently facing is the transition from family bed to crib.
I chose co-sleeping because it just seemed natural to me, not because I have a strong commitment to a particular parenting style. It’s been lovely. However, something has to change about our current sleep set up.
First, Mr. Bunny has been kicked out of bed. The problem is that he’s a prodigiously loud snorer. It’s like sleeping with a wolverine. (Everyone knows wolverines snore, right?) In the past I just dealt, but with Bun Bun in the bed, I’m sleeping more lightly. I’d often find myself lying wide awake next to a peacefully sleeping baby–you know, sleeping so quietly that I’d check for signs of life–and a monstrously loud husband. I realize this does not compare to having a screaming baby who has to be soothed back to sleep every hour, but how unfair to have a good sleeper and not be able to take advantage of it! So now some nights he sleeps in the guest room, some nights I sleep there and just drop in for her middle of the night feeding (so that he gets some time with her). The important feature is that he and I don’t sleep in the same bed at the same time. And while I’m remembering how much I LOVE sleeping alone…apparently my marriage is important or something? So I think my goal should be to sleep in the same bed as my husband eventually.
Second, Bun Bun has begun to get a ton more active and is fighting the swaddle more and more. Lately she’s super into grabbing her feet, and will wiggle out of any swaddle for the delicious pleasure of grabbing those toes. So I’m sleeping less well.
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So maybe now is the time to transition to the crib? I know through osmosis (since I refuse to read) that around the four month mark is a typical time to think about deswaddling/ moving to a crib. But somehow I’ve been unable to pull the trigger. During the day, I keep saying, yeah, I’m ready! But then when night rolls around, I somehow find myself unable to deal with the idea of leaving her all alone in another room. Or something? I’m honestly not sure what the issue is.
If you have any advice, please share. Or if you just want to tell me how stupid I am for refusing to educate myself, go for it.